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April 4, 2026
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"The brain is a wonderful organ. It starts working the moment you get up in the morning and does not stop until you get into a meeting." ~ Robert Frost, American poet
I want to tell you about the worst retreat I ever attended. It was the week before fall classes started and we were told to meet in one of our largest classrooms. After our chair made some brief remarks and introduced the facilitator, we were asked to push our chairs back and stand up. "We're going to do some light stretching," she announced cheerfully. "It helps us find a relaxed state."
I was wearing dress slacks and a dress shirt. My colleague next to me was in heels. We exchanged the specific look that academic professionals reserve for moments of profound institutional absurdity…and then…we stretched.
I distinctly remember a full professor behind me making his feelings known with a not-so-subtle loud sigh.
That was the high point.
The rest of the day was a PowerPoint marathon: department updates, enrollment numbers, policy reminders — all things that could have been a very thorough email. By 3 PM we had consumed lots of coffee, a few mediocre pastries, and approximately zero ideas we could actually use. I drove away from campus that day in a zombie-state and quickly put the experience out of my mind.
I've also been in the room when it goes the other way.
A few years into my time as director, I brought in a facilitator for a faculty retreat that I still think about. We started with a question: How does an innovative school serve its students in the 21st century? The day's activities were structured around that one question, and by making space for real conversation, people shared ideas they'd been holding onto for months. We left with three shared commitments and a common language we used for the next two years — language that became central to how we implemented our strategic plan.
Same format. Same catered lunch. Completely different outcome.
A quick note on language: we all use the term "retreat" differently. I mean any intentional block of time you're creating for your team to step back and think together — whether that's a full day offsite or a three-hour planning session in the conference room down the hall.
Leadership Takeaway
A retreat is one of the most expensive gifts you can give your team — not in dollars, but in time.
A full day away from inboxes, students, and the relentless pull of the urgent.
Research on team effectiveness consistently shows that shared goals and common language are among the strongest predictors of how well a group functions under pressure. A well-designed retreat can build more of both in a single day than six months of weekly meetings. But that only happens when the leader is intentional about outcomes before anyone books the room.
Here's the problem: most retreat planning starts with logistics. The date. The venue. Who's handling lunch. And those things matter — but they're the appetizers, not the main course. That's where most leaders underinvest.
Outcome-focused planning starts somewhere else entirely. It starts with one question: What do I want to be different that following Monday morning?
Not "what topics should we cover?" Not "how do we fill eight hours?" But: what actually needs to shift — in our shared understanding, in our relationships, in our direction — that can only happen if we step away from our normal environment and create space for it?
That question can change everything downstream.
Practical Guidance
1. Frame it before people walk in the door
Most leaders spend weeks planning what will happen inside the room and almost no time thinking about what people will believe before they arrive.
That's a problem, because your faculty and staff have already decided how much of themselves to bring before the day even starts. If the retreat lands in their inbox as a calendar hold with no context, they'll assume it's a meeting with a better view. If it reads like an obligation — "mandatory attendance, 8 AM, bring your laptop" — they'll show up armored, not open.
How you frame the retreat in the weeks leading up to it is part of the retreat design. A short note that says "I want this to be a day worth your time — here's what we're trying to build together" does more work than any icebreaker you could plan. It signals that this is different. That you've thought about it. That something real is on the table.
Think carefully about the language you use. "All-staff meeting" and "a day to step back and think together about where we're headed" are not the same invitation. One activates a familiar, low-investment posture. The other opens a door.
2. Design for outcomes, and leave with proof
Before you plan a single agenda item, write down your answers to three questions: - What do I want my team to know by the end of this day? - What do I want them to feel? - What do I want them to do differently starting Monday? Every block in your agenda should serve at least one of those three. If it doesn't, cut it (and for the love of your team, skip the stretching).
But design alone isn't enough. You have to close the loop before people walk out the door — and then follow through after.
Before the day ends, name the commitments out loud. Name the next steps. Name who owns what. Even two or three specific agreements, captured somewhere visible, transforms a retreat from a nice day into a turning point. Then comes the part most leaders skip: show up Monday ready to act on what the group built together. Nothing kills retreat momentum faster than a leader who nods along all day and returns to business as usual by Tuesday morning. Your team is watching to see if the day meant something to you too.
Research backs this up — a 2011 study in the Journal of Nursing Education found retreat-driven gains in team cohesion faded by semester's end when leaders didn't reinforce what was built. The retreat opens the door. You have to keep it open.
Pay attention to shared language as well. When a team leaves using the same words to describe a common idea — a phrase they built together, a framework that became shorthand for something bigger — that's the outward sign of shared meaning. And shared meaning is what separates teams that row in the same direction from teams that are technically in the same boat but pulling against each other. (If you want to go deeper, I wrote an issue on this in February — Everyone Agrees. Nobody Knows What It Means. is worth the read before you plan your next retreat.)
3. Build conversation in, not just open discussion
There's a difference between structured conversation and open discussion, and it matters more than most leaders realize.
Open discussion sounds like: "Okay, what does everyone think?" Then you wait. The same two or three people who always talk start talking. The introverts do the math and decide it's not worth the effort. The person with the most politically sensitive thing to say stays quiet. You end up with a conversation that feels participatory but mostly reflects whoever is most comfortable performing in public.
Structured conversation is different — and there are more ways to do it than most leaders realize.
Individual writing gives people time to formulate a real thought before the pressure of the room kicks in — a simple prompt surfaces more honesty in two minutes than an open floor will in twenty.
A gallery walk gets people out of their chairs, posts prompts around the room for written responses, and consistently surfaces quieter voices who wouldn't raise their hand but will absolutely write something on a sticky note.
Small groups of three or four give people a lower-stakes space to test an idea — you want more diversity of thought in the mix before it becomes a whole-group conversation.
If your agenda lists "Discussion" in every block, you haven't finished designing yet. The topics aren't the design. How you structure the conversation is the design.
4. Don't run your own retreat
Here's the move many leaders don't consider: stepping out of the facilitator role entirely.
When you're the one running the retreat, you're managing two jobs at once — watching the clock, reading the room, deciding when to push a conversation further and when to move on. That's a real job. And you can't do it while also being a genuine participant in your own team's most important conversations.
When you're running the retreat, you're separated from it — the person at the front of the room managing the experience rather than having one. The team-building you're creating space for your faculty and staff to experience? You need that too. Those bonds don't have to stop at your title. But they will if you're holding the agenda all day.
Bringing in an outside facilitator changes what's possible in the room. When your team knows the conversation isn't being steered from the top, the outcomes feel earned.
An outside voice can also say things you simply can't. They can look at a program that's enrolled three students in three years and ask — out loud — why is this still here? They can challenge processes that have calcified into tradition. They can name what the room has been circling around but no one wanted to say first. That kind of honest questioning rarely comes from inside the hierarchy. I love outside facilitators for this reason alone.
When you hand off the facilitation, here's what you get in return: you leave the day having been in the conversations, not above them. Decisions get made, not just discussed. Your people see you as a member of the team. Relationships deepen in ways a normal staff meeting never touches. And you walk away from a day that actually moved your culture forward.
The Bottom Line
A retreat is a leadership statement.
It says: this team's time together is worth investing in. But the investment only pays off if you design it that way — and if you show up for it the same way you're asking your people to.
The bar isn't getting through the agenda. The bar is walking back onto campus Monday morning and feeling something is different. In how your people talk to each other. In the decisions that are finally behind you. In the energy of a team that spent a day being reminded they're building something together. That never happens by accident. It happens because someone did the hard work of deciding what the day was actually for — before anyone walked in the room.
Try This Before Friday
Before your next retreat planning conversation, write down these three sentences:
"By the end of this retreat, my team will know..."
"By the end of this retreat, my team will feel..."
"By the end of this retreat, my team will do differently..."
If you can't finish all three, you're not ready to book the room yet. Once you can — you have your agenda.
Thanks for reading. See you next Saturday.
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